The Therapeutic Relationship

The Therapeutic Relationship

No, this isn’t about dating your therapist. In fact, that’s a really bad idea because they likely know very private things about you might not even share with a significant other so that can never be an equal partnership. What I’m talking about is the kind of relationship you have with your therapist. It’s a tricky thing because it isn’t quite like any other relationship you’ve ever had, or ever will. It pays to know why it’s important.

Scientific studies have indicated that the therapeutic relationship is the part of therapy most associated with good outcomes. In fact, the philosophy your therapist uses is far less important (as long as you both believe in it) than the quality of that relationship. Any good therapist should know that and that’s why we focus a great deal on it. At face value it makes sense. You can’t do good therapy with someone you don’t trust, and you certainly won’t want to share your secrets with someone you dislike.

The therapeutic relationship needs to be goal directed because you are there to make your life better, but let your therapist get to know you too. When we know what you like and what you love it helps us find creative solutions for you. I know when I see someone’s face light up when they are telling me about something they did, or want to do, it gives me the faith that they can make anything happen and I can help them see that about themselves.

There are necessary boundaries, however. Please check back later for part 2 on the therapeutic relationship!

-Travis